• A refreshingly science-based approach to dating that feels realistic and achievable.
• Fast, eye-opening explanations of why we’re attracted to certain people—and why we keep picking the wrong ones.
• Lively storytelling drawn from 43+ years of real clinical experience.
• Clear descriptions of toxic personalities that help readers instantly identify red flags.
• Empowering tools for finding reliable, emotionally healthy partners.
• Smart behavioral insights delivered in simple, relatable language.
• A humorous yet deeply compassionate tone, making even tough lessons enjoyable to read.
• Perfect for readers of Attached, The Science of Happily Ever After, or Why We Love
• Encourages readers to reflect, reassess, and rewrite their relationship patterns.
• Offers truly practical dating guidance that goes far beyond typical dating-advice books.
Playlist / Soundtrack for the Book
• ‘Rhapsody on a Theme of Paganini’ – Rachmaninoff (the author’s inspiration and perfect for reflective reading).
• ‘Strange Love’ – Halsey, for exploring the complexity of attraction.
• ‘Truth Hurts’ – Lizzo, capturing the empowerment of breaking bad cycles.
• ‘The Story’ – Brandi Carlile, for readers rediscovering personal truth.
• ‘Human’ – Rag’n’Bone Man, reminding us of the vulnerability behind dating patterns.
• ‘Vienna’ – Billy Joel, echoing the book’s message of slowing down and choosing wisely.
Character Introduction: Meet the A, B, and C Types
• The ‘A’ Partner: Reliable, consistent, emotionally healthy, a steady communicator — think Ted Lasso meets a grounded George Clooney.
• The ‘B’ Partner: High-voltage, charming, impulsive, unpredictable — similar to the magnetic but chaotic characters in You or Euphoria.
• The ‘C’ Partner: Sweet, overly accommodating, conflict-avoidant — like a softer, quieter version of Marshall Eriksen from How I Met Your Mother, but without the confidence.
• These ‘characters’ are real behavioral archetypes Dr. Ruben uses to help readers instantly identify relationship patterns.
Author’s Book Club Picks (if you love these too, try Rate Your Date)
• Attached by Amir Levine & Rachel Heller – A bestselling exploration of attachment styles.
• The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John & Julie Gottman – Science-backed relationship mastery.
• Maybe You Should Talk to Someone by Lori Gottlieb – For readers fascinated by therapy-driven personal insight.
• The Science of Happily Ever After by Dr. Ty Tashiro – A research-rich look at why partner selection matters.
• Set Boundaries, Find Peace by Nedra Glover Tawwab – A perfect companion for breaking unhealthy dating cycles.
Bookish Fun Facts About Rate Your Date
• The book draws from over 8,000 real client experiences, making it deeply authentic.
• Dr. Ruben studied under students of B.F. Skinner—giving the book a legendary behavioral-science lineage.
• The examples of toxic dating patterns (‘B’s’ and ‘C’s’) come from decades of real-world observation.
• The book’s message—choose people who feel “boring” at first—often surprises readers, but becomes a fan-favorite concept.
• Many readers report finishing the book in one sitting because the stories feel so familiar and relatable.
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